{"id":13914,"date":"2020-03-20T21:11:01","date_gmt":"2020-03-20T21:11:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/childandfamilyblog.com\/?p=13914"},"modified":"2024-08-25T09:36:04","modified_gmt":"2024-08-25T08:36:04","slug":"how-do-young-children-make-sense-of-death","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/childandfamilyblog.com\/how-do-young-children-make-sense-of-death\/","title":{"rendered":"How do young children make sense of death?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><\/p>\n<h3><strong><span class=\"s3\">Children\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">construct<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0knowledge about death. They actively ask questions, they observe events and behaviors around them, they read books and watch films.<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">By the age of\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">six<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, most children seem to have a fairly sophisticated understanding of death<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, according to a recent review of the research<\/span><span class=\"s3\">.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">This is earlier than once thought<\/span><span class=\"s3\">: t<\/span><span class=\"s3\">he famous early researcher Jean Piaget<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0(1896-1980)\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">proposed that children could not understand death until about the age of 10.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">He\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">based\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">this notion\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">on the idea that to understand death, children first need to understand bodily systems and how\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">they\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">can come to an end.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">But as more people considered\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">children\u2019s understanding of death<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, the narrow focus on physicality was broadened. In the 1990s, four components of death were proposed,\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">some of\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">which children can start to understand much earlier,<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0from<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0the age of five: (1) the idea that all things die, (2) the idea that death is final an<\/span><span class=\"s3\">d<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0irreversible, (3) the idea that death means the end of all biological and psychological processes, and (4) the idea that death has many different causes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">O<\/span><span class=\"s3\">f course,<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0studying children\u2019s understanding of death, particularly the impact of losing a loved one<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, presents ethical challenges<\/span><span class=\"s3\">. Grieving children deserve privacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">Children\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s6\">construct<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0knowle<\/span><span class=\"s3\">dge, rather than just learn things. They actively ask questions, they observe events and behaviors around them, they read books and watch films. Out of all this, they establish an understanding.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_79_2 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-custom ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title ez-toc-toggle\" style=\"cursor:pointer\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #121c4e;color:#121c4e\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #121c4e;color:#121c4e\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/childandfamilyblog.com\/how-do-young-children-make-sense-of-death\/#Asking_questions\" >Asking questions<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/childandfamilyblog.com\/how-do-young-children-make-sense-of-death\/#Books_and_films\" >Books and films<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/childandfamilyblog.com\/how-do-young-children-make-sense-of-death\/#Cultural_practices\" >Cultural practices<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/childandfamilyblog.com\/how-do-young-children-make-sense-of-death\/#Combining_physical_and_spiritual_narratives\" >Combining\u00a0physical and spiritual\u00a0narratives<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/childandfamilyblog.com\/how-do-young-children-make-sense-of-death\/#How_to_tackle_the_subject_of_death_with_children\" >How to tackle the subject of death with children<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Asking_questions\"><\/span><span class=\"s6\">Asking questions<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">Parents report\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">that\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">children as young as\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">three years\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">ask questions about death, particularly after a death in the family<\/span><span class=\"s3\">; for example,\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u201cWhat happens to people when they die?\u201d Children also frequently ask what causes death.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">Culture shapes how\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">openly parents\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">discuss death with their children. In\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">many\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">Western societies,\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">parents are<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0more\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">reticent\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">to talk about\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">the subject<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0with young children, in the interest of shielding them from difficult truths. That, of course, does not discourage many children from asking<\/span><span class=\"s3\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Books_and_films\"><\/span><span class=\"s6\">Books and films<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">Researchers have examined how death is depicted in children\u2019s books and films. One study in 2014 looked at how frequently death is portrayed in\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">books that parents said were their children\u2019s favourites<\/span><span class=\"s3\">, as well as<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0books that had won the American\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"http:\/\/www.ala.org\/alsc\/awardsgrants\/bookmedia\/caldecottmedal\/caldecotthonors\/caldecottmedal\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span class=\"s7\">Caldecott Medal<\/span><\/a><span class=\"s3\">, an award for distinguished picture books. Only 3% depicted death.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">In contrast\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">75% of\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">animated children\u2019s films<\/span><span class=\"s3\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">contain\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">at least one\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">death, though many\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s3\">a<\/span><span class=\"s3\">re not depicted explicitly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s3\">Researchers have also looked at books designed for bereaved children. Books from Western countries are more likely to depict spiritual aspects of death than books from East Asian countries.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Cultural_practices\"><\/span><span class=\"s6\">Cultural practices<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span class=\"s4\">The Mexican celebration\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s8\">D\u00eda de Muertos<\/span><span class=\"s9\">, brought to\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">a\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">global\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">audience<\/span><span class=\"s9\">\u00a0in the animated film\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Coco_(2017_film)\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span class=\"s10\">Coco<\/span><\/a><span class=\"s9\">,\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">is an annual celebration\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">of deceased relatives<\/span><span class=\"s9\">. Families create\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s8\">ofrendas<\/span><span class=\"s9\">\u00a0(altars) for dead relatives and place food there.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">Researchers have asked children what they make of this. M<\/span><span class=\"s9\">ost recount that their dead relatives come to visit and eat the food laid out, even though at the same time\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">they\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">understand that death is irreversible and that the ability to eat stops after death.<\/span><span class=\"s9\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">Thus<\/span><span class=\"s9\">\u00a0children\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">can hold different\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">narratives<\/span><span class=\"s9\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">in their heads\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">at the same time.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Combining_physical_and_spiritual_narratives\"><\/span><span class=\"s11\">Combining\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s11\">physical and spiritual\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s11\">narratives<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span class=\"s4\">Children can form an understanding of the physical aspects of death<\/span><span class=\"s4\">\u00a0very early<\/span><span class=\"s4\">. In one study,\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">three<\/span><span class=\"s4\">&#8211; to\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">five<\/span><span class=\"s4\">-year olds\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">were given\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">a lesson on the body and its systems. These children formed a deeper understanding of the causes of death than children who did not\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">receive\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">the lesson.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s4\">At the same time,\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">children<\/span><span class=\"s4\">\u00a0can also form a spiritual understanding of death.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">Indeed, whi<\/span><span class=\"s4\">ls<\/span><span class=\"s4\">t most children\u2019s questions to parents are about biological aspects of death, most parents\u2019 response<\/span><span class=\"s4\">s<\/span><span class=\"s4\">\u00a0refer to spiritual elements. For example, if a child asks, \u201cWhat happens to people when they die?\u201d a parent\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">might\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">say \u201cYour body stops working\u201d, but many will say instead, \u201cYou go to heaven.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">This may be motivated by the desire to protect the child from the finality of death<\/span><span class=\"s4\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s4\">Physical and spiritual understandings can be\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s4\">blended<\/span><span class=\"s4\">\u00a0by children without a sense of contradiction, as in Mexican children\u2019s understanding of\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s8\">D\u00eda de Muertos<\/span><span class=\"s9\">.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">Research suggests that\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">a\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">biological understanding often pre<\/span><span class=\"s9\">cedes a s<\/span><span class=\"s9\">piritual understanding, with the former moderating the latter.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How_to_tackle_the_subject_of_death_with_children\"><\/span><span class=\"s8\">How to tackle the subject of death with children<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span class=\"s9\">In research on children not experiencing a bereavement, a<\/span><span class=\"s9\">\u00a0greater biological understanding of death has been found to correlate with lower anxiety about death.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s9\">F<\/span><span class=\"s9\">ear and anxiety make it\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">more\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">difficult for\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">bereaved children to\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">reason about death. In this case, open communication with parents has found to\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">support\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">the child\u2019s ability to cope. People who recalled their parents being open to talking about death reported better coping with death in childhood, which in turn was associated with better coping in adulthood.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"s9\">Therefore, <a href=\"https:\/\/childandfamilyblog.com\/benefits-of-conversations-with-toddlers\">parent<\/a><\/span><span class=\"s9\">-child conversations about death are important.<\/span><\/p>\n<div class=\"retrofit-references\">\n<h4>References<\/h4>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 1.8em;\"><em>\u00a0<span class=\"s3\">Menendez D, Hernandez IG &amp; Rosengren KS (2020),\u00a0<\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/srcd.onlinelibrary.wiley.com\/doi\/abs\/10.1111\/cdep.12357\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span class=\"s7\">Children\u2019s emerging understanding of death<\/span><\/a><span class=\"s3\">, Child Development Perspectives<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Children construct knowledge about death. 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